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For months after his wife declared that she was leaving, he found that his sexual fantasies and urges to masturbate were becoming more and more imperious.
He realized that if he did not masturbate, he would remain “horny” all day, which would make him feel restless, irritable and discontent.
Most importantly, he reported, he was learning how to be himself and to be comfortable with himself in social situations. We began to do a cost/benefit analysis of his sexual behavior.
Life History Steve was the first of three children, with two younger sisters.
He found that if he did not act on these urges, he would remain “horny” all day and would be unable to focus on his work or pay attention to his wife when she spoke to him.
He was constantly preoccupied with his sexual fantasies.
Steve reported that he had always had sexual thoughts about his mother.
With head held down, he didn’t make eye contact with me and, once sitting in the chair, was inward and lacking anything much to say.
He eventually did communicate that he had received a demotion on his job and that his wife had filed for divorce.
He seemed to be in a severe depression around these losses.
He found that being locked into the fantasies and rituals that preceded the sexual acting out were just as compelling as the actual sex act, perhaps even more so.
His emotionally-charged high was maintained by the dopamine-enhanced searching, downloading, chatting, texting, sexting and other sexual-based behaviors.